Why Cuckolding & Hotwifing are BDSM fetishes

Owning your BDSM kinks — bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sado-masochism — will spice up your hotwife & cuckold fantasies, satisfying your lust for a cuckold relationship.

Let’s see how you can pair BDSM with your cuckolding & hotwifing playtime.

In this article we’ll talk about:

• How BDSM connects to cuckolding
• The Domme Hotwife
• The Chastity Cuckold
• The Hotwife Gangbang

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What is BDSM anyway?

BDSM is an acronym that breaks down into:

• Bondage & Discipline
• Dominance & Submission
• Sado-Masochism

When you hear people talking about “kink”, getting tied up, whipped, dominated in the bedroom, grabbed, choked, slapped, spanked…

All the stuff that got women so hot and bothered about Fifty Shades of Gray…

BDSM is what comes to mind.

If you’re a cuckold or in a hotwife relationship, you’re probably already seeing the connections.

Even though our one-sided ‘wife sharing’ fantasies aren’t obviously part of the BDSM scene, there’s a LOT of overlap.

How BDSM connects to cuckolding & hotwifing

Think about these situations:

• You take your wife out to a dance club. She has a few drinks and you know she gets ‘playful’ after a few. She meets a young guy with a nice body on the dance floor. You lose sight of them for 15 minutes. Next time you see them, he’s got his hand up her skirt. Twenty minutes later she tells you she’s going back to his hotel for the night. You aren’t invited.
• A lesbian power-fucks your wife with a strap-on dildo.
• A bull cockblocks you and takes your wife. Your wife protests, sort of, but gives herself to the sex and does things with him that she won’t do with you. He finishes inside her pussy, even though you said no.
• You plan a vacation get-away and she invites the bull along. He sleeps in the same bed with you. Each morning, for five days, you wake up to this man fucking your wife while you lie there helpless and mesmerized. They aren’t using protection.
• Her bull cums inside her and demands that you eat her pussy to “clean up that mess”.
• You wake up one morning to find your wife playing with your dick. Instead of the handjob you expected, she’s locked your dick in a chastity cage. No more pussy for at least six weeks. Oh, and she’s got a date tonight. You’ll be helping her get ready.
• Your wife makes a porno film with a local production company. She has sex with three different guys on camera. You don’t get to watch the production. You have to watch her films on the couch and jerk off to other men pleasing her pussy.

What do all these have in common?

There’s an element of all three BDSM sub-categories

• The cuck husband is “bound”, when he’s forced to watch, or wait on his wife while she’s being pleasured. Many cuckolds enjoy being disciplined by being locked into chastity in a female-led relationship.
• The cuck is dominated by his hotwife. His wife is getting laid by another man, which puts him in a submissive posture even if he’s a stag.
• All cuckolds (including stags) experience a thrill from sharing their wives’ sexuality with other men. The act transforms the pain and fear of jealousy into erotic excitement.

Dominance/Submission – The domme hotwife

In those examples above, the hotwife is “taken” by a dominant bull… but it doesn’t take much convincing for her to go along with it.

She’s enjoying herself when she shouldn’t be.

Even if the “bull” is another women, who doesn’t have a penis or the sperm to set off the cuck’s natural mate-guarding defenses, the cuckold husband can still find himself turned on by his wife’s penetration and pleasure.

This isn’t usually what we mean by talking about a domme, of course. There’s more whips and spanking involved.

But you can see that the wife takes a dominant role over her submissive husband.

This is true even in Stag & Vixen relationships where submission isn’t the husband’s major motivation

She’s taking charge of her sexuality and her sexual pleasure.

Sure, a stag husband might be open-minded enough to find his own sexual satisfaction in sharing her.

He’s watching his wife fuck like a porn star.

No doubt that is sexy as hell.

But awakening her to sexual liberty and allowing her to explore that puts the man into a submissive position.

Hotwife dominance isn’t the only BDSM fetish in cuckolding.

Bondage/Discipline – The chastity cuckold

Many men take their cuckold desires well beyond the light submissiveness of the stag husband & vixen hotwife.

They want real bondage & discipline.

Although cuckolds aren’t typically associated with full handcuffs and leather bondage, there’s one particular kind of bondage that many cuckolds love.

Men with a serious pussy denial urge may have their cocks locked up in a chastity cage, with the key held by their hotwife — or even their bull.

It’s entirely possible to discipline a cuckold without using the cage, too.

You might decide that your bull will control your sex life

He decides when the hotwife will come pleasure him. He decides when, or if, the cuckold will be allowed to have sex with his hotwife.

He might even force the cuck to wait in the next room while he (the bull) gives the hotwife a screaming orgasm and leaves a creampie in her pussy.

By this point, we’re crossing out of bondage and into…

Sado-masochism – Hotwife gangbangs

It’s one thing to let one guy date your wife and control your cuckold relationship.

It’s another thing to arrange three, four, five… 10 guys have sex with your wife.

Making her into the center of attention…

Transforming her into a ‘cum dump’…

Sharing her in a way that is dirty and raw, pure animal sexuality without emotion or romance…

Although a gangbang for your hotwife brings together discipline and submission — for her — there’s a powerful angle of sadism and masochism for the cuck husband.

His wife forces him to watch as her female sexuality satisfies many men, while she enjoys the pleasure of attention that no one man can provide.

Even if she’s not deliberately cruel, there is pain, shame, and humiliation involved.

Any cuckold that would go through with a decadent act of wife-sharing is going to take intense pleasure in those feelings.

Her sadism mirrors his masochism.

Like any kind of BDSM play you’ve got to have rules

As you can see, cuckolding and hotwifing overlap with BDSM in many ways.

Instead of one on one play, you’re bringing a third party stunt cock (or maybe more than one) into your sex life.

Which, as we all know, is hot as fuck.

But it also means cuckolds and hotwives need to watch out for the same warning signs.

• Talk, talk, and talk again.
• Lay out ground rules for when you’ll agree to stop.
• Have a safe word to put an end to it at any time, if either of you is not comfortable.

Remember, when it’s all done and dusted, this is a fantasy that the two of you play with as a part of your own sex life.

You don’t get into cuckolding to replace your sex life as husband and wife.

Summing up

The mind-fuck with cuckolding, like all BDSM play, is that you’re voluntarily giving up your freedom.

Cuckold husbands want to give up their ability to say “no”. And many dominant housewives, who realize that they wouldn’t mind getting screwed by sexy men, also get a thrill out of making their husbands suffer for his pleasure.

As long as you’re doing it together, to connect and to experience sex in ways monogamous couples can’t, then you have our blessing.

With more couples than ever deciding to share their female halves with other men, there’s never been a better time to open up about your fantasies.