“What if I do hook up with him and I leave you for him?”

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Posted by Arabella Blaze

Tired cheating-wife… or wired hotwife?

A cuckold’s fantasy scenario stands the “betraying wife” trope on its head.

She went off and fucked another guy? Awesome! ✋

What would end up with tears and a divorce lawyer is mission accomplished in our world.

Or is it?

If you’re reading this, there’s a very good chance you’ve already thought about the negative side.

You know — the fears, doubts, uncertainties, the jealousy, envy, and resentment.

Yep. We all have to deal with that, even if you do get your orgasms from acts of unfaithfulness.

This isn’t only from the male POV, by the way.

Hotwives deal with this at least as much as their husbands. Look around at the most common reasons women say won’t have an affair (even if their husband begs for it):

  • “I don’t feel attractive.”
  • “I don’t feel comfortable about my body.”
  • “What if I develop feelings for the other guy?”
  • “I don’t want to end up feeling guilty if I enjoy myself.”
  • “What would happen if I prefer other men over my husband in bed?”

A lot of emotional baggage here.

She doesn’t want to feel like she’s enjoying herself at her husband’s expense. She doesn’t want to fall in love with another man. She doesn’t want to dislike, hate, or resent having sex with her husband after she experiences the guilty pleasures of filthy animal-sex with a skilled lover.

All fear-based reasons.

Cuck husbands experience these doubts too. It’s his wife, the love of his life, that he’s sending off to play with another dude’s cock. Even if he is turned on, that’s going to get his heart fluttering. Hell, the tension and fear and doubt is part of the sexual turn-on.

You know what’s the common factor between all of these concerns?

Emotional stability.

Man and wife are both worried that she won’t be able to help herself once she gets that much-deserved deep-dicking.

Not an unreasonable fear. But you have more control over that than you think.


Most couples who blunder into this fantasy haven’t talked about it as much as they should have. That’s because most couples, to be frank about it, suck at talking about sex and that goes triple-time for their dirty fantasies.

If you don’t trust each other enough to have half an hour of filthy-talking foreplay before you get down to five minutes of uninspired missionary, how do you think you are going to let her get intimate with a bull?

You aren’t.

Your emotional fears and doubts are a direct result of your lack of connection with your SO. Not that boring rut of routine that you slip into. Real, active, honest, and open communication with each other.

If you’ve got that going for you, the odds of her running off with a great fuck drop to almost nothing.

If you don’t have that kind of relationship or communication, you might want to think twice about going down this road. Build the road before you think about driving the Ferrari.

You can play act the “stealing my wife” situation if you want, though, and that can be toe-curling sexy.

“He wants me in his room tonight. He says you can’t watch.”

“You’re using condoms right?”

“No, he wants me raw tonight. He says you’ll have to wear the condom.”

So good 🤤

But make sure you’re both on the same page. Talk!

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